Loss can be a challenging time, but healing begins the minute we are ready to accept things and move on. Keeping the big picture into perspective is the biggest step to ending pain and suffering.
Unfortunately, biology is stacked against us. Our mind tends to clearly remember traumatic, fearful experiences as a survival mechanism in order to avoid them in the future. But when we tap into this awareness of negative experience and consciously emerge out of your dogmatic beliefs or personal perception to undergo a powerful transformation.
Here are some things you need to ask yourself in times of trauma to start the healing process.
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Life means evolution. Look for the punch line in every experience.
The Universe is constantly evolving and undergoing transformation through expansion. This is a natural law, and coming from a higher source, all our experiences stem from a higher source, so all that happens in our lives is happening “for” us and not “to” us.
This means that while we experience loss or trauma on an egoic level, it is all part of a greater scheme of things. You have to look closely to see the order hidden amidst the chaos.
Ask yourself:
- What is my lesson?
- How did I manifest this particular incident, and which habits do I need to let go of to better my situation?
- How do I turn this into an opportunity for growth?
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Look for the missing link
According to John DeMartini:
All positive and negative particles in the universe are created simultaneously, in perfect one-to-one balance. We are made of these particles, and if these laws apply to all matter (in both quantum mechanics and classical physics), they must apply to the whole.
While this balance is part of all things, our senses are deceptive and create imbalanced perceptions. While we can become attached to what is lost it is healing to find what is missing and reclaim it in our own lives. It is normal that you are grieving but you are merely attached to the form, which is the cause of all your suffering. For example, if you miss someone for their ability to make you laugh, you might find yourself drawn to a colleague with a great sense of humor or watching more comedy flicks.
Ask yourself:
- What is it that I miss?
- Is it possible for me to find these traits in a new form?
- What does this new form have that is different from the old one?
